Call me crazy, but I love this time of year! That precious week between Christmas and New Years. It is when we take a break from homeschool, there are no dance classes, no karate lessons; It. Is. Wonderful! For me it is also the week where I can clean up after the mess that presents create (I love all that paper, packaging, gift bags, and tissue paper…said no mom ever!) and focus on the upcoming year.
For me, the problem is that I get my wonderful new planner out, have all these goals in mind, but then I feel so overwhelmed by all of the things I want to change, accomplish and do that I don’t really get much done, despite my best intentions. Please tell me that I am not the only one!
So this year I am going to try something new. Every year I make New Years resolutions, and they NEVER work. I think it is because I have so many areas of my life that I want to work on and continue growing in and I try to do them all at once, get overwhelmed, lose focus, and fail at many of the things I set out to do. Well, as you can see, this method has not worked for me at all! And Yet year after year I try again; doing things the same way, hoping for a different outcome. I bet you can guess how that ends up!
This year I have decided to change things up a bit because as Henry Ford said,
“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.”
Ouch! That one really hits home. In my last post I talked about how at the end of this year I looked back at the past 365 days and reflected on what went right, what didn’t, where I made mistakes, and what my accomplishments were. I did this not to become discouraged (although at times I did and that is where Ben and Jerry’s came in to play!) but to see what I should keep doing because it worked, as well as what I need to change in order to be who I want to be and reach the goals I have for myself.
I know what direction I want to go in and what goals I want to set, but that’s where I get a bit overwhelmed. What I end up with is this picture perfect idea of what I want my life to look like and what I want to do and be, but no real plan to get there. So this year I am going to pick one big word to describe what I want to accomplish in the upcoming year and set my goals around that word. For me that word is INTENTIONAL. What will your big word for the year be; balance, focus, possibility, growth, commitment, determination, grace, simplify, strength, thrive, optimism, flourish, consistent, peaceful, progress, discipline…?
I picked my word so that I can focus on being intentional in the areas of my life that I want to work on and improve. When I make my goals for the year I can refer back to that word, intentional. When I schedule and plan out my day I will try and do it with intention. I have to be more intentional about how I spend my time, my money, and my energy. More intentional about taking time to play with my kids everyday; not just being in the same room talking with them, but actually playing what they want to play. More intentional about setting and reaching the goals I have for myself, our homeschool, our family, and my blog.
Being intentional is a great place to start and it’s important to keep in mind as we go about our day, but to be who I want to be and reach my goals I need to go a step further. I have never really been someone who writes my goals and dreams down, but in not doing so, I am setting myself up for failure. And yet year after year I approach the new year the same way, hoping that maybe this year will be different. I think it was Albert Einstein who defined insanity as,
“doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
Yup, that pretty much sums up my former approach to goals and resolutions! But not this year! I have chosen my word of the year (intentional), reflected on the past year for what worked and what didn’t, and I have a different mindset; from just wishing that my goals come to fruition, to actually having a plan to make them happen. Yes, this is going to be my year, I can feel it!
How do you envision your year going? Have you picked your word for the year and started thinking about a plan to reach your goals?